I hear this way too often and I am guilty of it myself. After I had Mila I would constantly tell myself that I am just going to stay fat because I have no time to workout. Little did I know, I was spending countless hours sitting on my bed binge watching anything and everything on Netflix. Ricky would leave the house with Mila and I on the bed and return 8-9 hours later to find us in the same spot. That’s frustrating for him to see me just lay there and he didn’t know how to help me. So, it would come out during random moments and I would turn it into an argument. I would say I just wish I had the time to workout or I hate my body, I’m so fat. His response would be, “Well why don’t you go to the gym? Let your grandma keep Mila.” THISSSSSSSSSSSSS would set me off because although I would say I needed to workout and that I thought I was fat I did not want to hear it from my husband. Now, Ricky did not say it to be mean but just to let me know I could do it. I did not see it that way. I saw it as my husband thinks I am fat too and he is probably cheating on me or looking to be with someone else because I don’t look like how I did before I had Mila. It would literally make me into a bigger mess and it was the worsttttttt!! We eventually got out of this funk when we moved and signed up AS A FAMILY at a local gym.
I would go sporadically and not really take it seriously because I felt like people were judging me. I felt like I did not know what I was doing and that was embarrassing to me. I took some boot camp classes but would convince myself I did not have the time because they were at 6am and I did not want Ricky to be late to work. Then I would go during the day and use the excuse that Mila is a lot of work for the child center and that I did not want to put them in that position. We were spending money at this gym and I was not utilizing it. This place is essspensive okay? I say it that way because it is like ridiculous how much we pay but we literally pay for all the luxuries they have. They have a state of the art child center, full fitness center, an assortment of fitness classes, an indoor and outdoor pool with water slides and kiddy pools, 3 saunas, steam rooms, like 40 freakin showers in each locker room (men and women), 2 full basketball courts, squash rooms, a spa and a cafeteria. LIKE WHAT!!! But guess what? Now, we use it all.
Right before our family vacay in December 2018 I started seeing my personal trainer once a week. He then told me that I HAVE to change the way I eat if I want to see any results. I am Mexican and Laotian. EVERYTHING is fried or cooked with a lot of oil and served with rice, tortillas, or bread. Like how am I supposed to do that. but I did.
I went on a 14 day all veggies/fruits detox. It was tough and i was supposed to do 21 days but Christmas and vacation was coming up and I did not want to feel limited on those days. Some of yall are probably like I could do that all year round, well good for fucking you but I am not you lol. I was very proud of this accomplishment!!!
I ate what I wanted over Christmas break but I also watched how much I was eating. My main problem is that I over eat. ALL THE TIME. There is nothing I do better than over eat everything. I did not do that during this time and I don’t know how to explain how much better I felt about myself.
When we returned we did the typical 2019 new years resolution of being healthier but we really went in with it.
I joined WW (Weight Watchers Re-imagined) with my mother-in-law. I took my weekly training sessions more seriously. I added more days to workout. I took Mila with me to the gym and I stopped making excuses for myself and stopped the pity party I was giving myself.
This is how I did it. This is how I planned it out. And I know you can do it too.
So, I am in love with planners, stickers, pretty colored pens and markers, white-out, washi tape, stencils, and so many more things I cannot possibly list them all.
I bought an Erin Condren planner. LIKE A LIFE PLANNER. IT IS MY LIFE. I cannot stress how important this is to me and it may benefit you too if you like writing out your plans and goals.
Every week, I will plan out a week of workouts. Yoga, Barre, Cycle Class, WHATEVAAAA. I plan to go EVERY SINGLE DAY. I don’t just say, I am going to yoga today. I put in my planner under March 5th 2019- Cycle Class at 930am. When you create a plan like this it makes it that much easier to actually do it. I do this for every single day, even the weekend. This allows me to stick to a schedule. This also allows me to make it to the gym AT LEAST 4 days a week. I plan this way because I know how I am and how busy I am and sometimes things come up last minute and I cannot go to the gym. I keep myself accountable this way.
Now, for the days I do not go to the gym, I will do workouts at home. This sounds lame I know but it’s not bad! I have a medicine ball and some weights at home and Mila loves to copy me or interrupt… depending on her mood. I watch YouTube videos in order to do this or I will do workouts that I have done with Lamare that does not require any type of equipment.
Here are a couple of my favorite YouTube channels and videos to workout at home with:
So I do technically workout 6-7 times a week and I do this because I want to be healthier and I want a hot body. I want to be one of those hot mamas that can rock whatever the hell she wants and have no shame about it.
I know that some may have expected that I discuss step-by-step tasks to do to get to this point but if I am being honest.. there is not right or wrong way to do this. For me, it was going ALL in. For others it may be starting out one day a week. For some it may be needing to be a positive space emotionally and mentally before they start doing something like this and that is TOTALLY OKAY. You need to take care of yourself, mind, body and spirit in all ways possible. This was a way I was able to take care of me. I have a goal and I know I will make it. I don’t want to feel sorry for myself or make others feel sorry for me. I am done doing that. That gets me nowhere and I have such big dreams and ideas that I cannot allow myself to be held back.
With all of that being said, If you are struggling.. please reach out! I would love to help. I would love to help you figure out steps to find the stronger you. Do not hesitate 🙂
April- The New Mom On The Block